Hi Mleigh, I think you are right not to make the grand pronouncement. The important thing is you are not doing things 'in relation to' H. You are just living your life on the basis that you guys are not in a R - you are coparents full stop. In your sitch that has been blurred at times and it sounds as though that isn't working for you and may be extending the status quo.

So, I would focus on making your own plans and gently withdrawing. What does that mean in practice? Brief drop offs, him not coming in for coffee, you being busy with friends and family on special occasions and so on. I think the balance is to maintain a good coparenting arrangement in respect of S, but move forward yourself as a newly single person.

Good luck xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

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