Thanks to both of you. W said S8 is doing ok now. According to her, he didn't like that he wouldn't see me until next week. But, he told me that he hated switching houses, and doesn't know why I don't/can't come home. She told him that I would see him Saturday, and I asked her what was going on Saturday, and got no response.
Sounds as if she's playing the old switch-a-roo.
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I'm glad S8 has calmed down, I am still confused though!
Look, her goal was just to calm him down to stop his crying. Then, you get to tell him why you can't see him Saturday........or leave it to her to tell him.
It is really unfair to this child to continue putting him through this every time. Don't you believe you and W need to give an joint-agreed answer for him? He is hurt at you b/c he thinks the problem is Daddy doesn't want to live with them. When kids get the brush off, they assume something else must be the reason their parents aren't being honest.......and it's usually them (the kids) that feel must be the problem keeping their parents apart.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
