Sadly, the answer to that question is "yes", as you know. WW is a grown woman at the end if the day, and anything you try to do to correct her will push her away.
It bites, my friend. Look what happened to me every time I lectured H on what he was doing wrong - Fed into his justifications why leaving me and replacing me with someone else was such a great idea. Now there is this awful pain we are both dealing with. Cannot recommend it.
We DB'ers have to be tough. Vent here, zip the lips out there. It helps!
