A couple of days ago he said, 'are you angry at me?' and I said, 'no, I'm not. Why do you ask?' and he said, 'you've just been different.' I wasn't sure what to say to that. I figured if he wanted to have a relationship talk or ask to spend time together, then he would - and he didn't - so I left him to it.
If this comes up again, maybe a "what do you mean?" or " how does that make you feel?" wont hurt?
Don't forget men don't have as many words to use in a day as men (no I am not being sexists, it's a reality born of our ancient ancestors) so what he said might be as close as he'll get to what you consider to be wanting a R talk. Did he ever start conversation about your R in the past? If not, then look out for signs that maybe he is, but don't get caught up waiting, just keep it in the back of your mind.
WRT the housing, you could always get a mortgage with your name on it, the same for the deeds to the house and say that if things change between the two of you then you will add him later, it shows you are prepared to become more independent but not shut him out right away. Renting sort of gives him a hold over you plus you'll get further behind in the housing market, which may make it difficult to buy in the future as prices will have risen.
You are doing great SpinningJenny, keep it up.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
