Hi Ripe, as you know I am new to your sitch and am only starting to get up to speed so please accept my apologies in advance of there is any duplication of what others have said.
It is only fair to warn you that I can be quite abrupt and direct, so please do not hesitate to tell me to quit posting if you think I am stepping too far over your boundaries.
With a fresh pair of eyes on what can been seen in your sitch in the last 3-4 months it seems you have been on quite a roller coaster ride. The very recent episode with your S9 must be making you feeling very fragile right now and I really feel for you.
Your posts have been very expansive and you've given a lot of detail (here comes the tough bit) what I cannot sense is that much actual DB'ing.
You have described your feelings and that is a new experience for you, there hasn't been any talk of goal setting and very little about GAL or hardly any 180's except the talking about your feelings to your family, which is a biggee and I'm not wishing to appear to minimise the significance of that, it's simply what seems to be an isolated instance?
Have you read the DR book recently? If not, maybe now is the time to get back to the basics? Less, what's going on a the moment, more what I have planned and how I'm going to do it in the pursuit of goals, as defined in the DR book.
This is not a criticism, simply an observation based on reading a reasonable number of sitch's, that those who actually practice DB'ing get results. Maybe not those they necessarily want but they do make progress and adapt their plans accordingly. They also get a better mindset that enables them to deal with the cut and thrust of their sitch's far more dynamically than those who haven't read the DR text recently.
If you post more based on DB techniques you will get more advice and guidance about implementation and adaption that works, plus the ones expressing support that we all so desperately need every so often will continue to appear just when you need them.
Does any of this make sense or have I missed something significant and should learn to research more before getting involved?
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
