She Wants Me to Leave....3rd Time in 4 Years

[isittoolate]

NDY - valid point but I will start with distancing and see what happens. If it doesn't work I will try something else.

Tonight was my first chance.
I had taken the day off sick because of lack of sleep (even on sleeping pills) and hence had all day on these forums.
I collected the kids from school(normally child minder job) and cooked them dinner before their Kickboxing class @ 6pm. W arrived home at 5:30. She normally takes them to Kickboxing class then she and a couple of mum pals of hers will go for a 5k run.

I made myself scarce and went to the gym (5:30). I ate a quick meal at the gym and went home. Got home at 7:15 and knew I had about 1 hour to play with kids and help with their homework so I did that. I then put them to bed. these were effectively 180s. All the while W is making her dinner and trying to initiate conversation - about her day and the kids. There were a couple of dramas - turns out S11 had lost his cellphone (he is always losing stuff) and this annoyed W whilst I remained Zenlike. Later she asked me if she had overreacted. I just validated her feelings.

Then one of S11s baby molars came out - small drama and I put them to bed.
W had gone downstairs to watch TV. She thanked me for putting kids to bed and giving her a break - I said I enjoyed it. Then I made her a cup of tea (a tradition going back years) and she watched crap TV whilst I read from my Kindle. I sat further away from her than usual and if she looks at me she has to turn her head and I can notice it.
Again she tried to initiate lots of conversations about all sorts of day events , her work, her running, the tv show. I was polite and friendly.

Then she asked if I wanted to watch Homeland or another show. We have watched every episode for years. I excused myself and said I was off to bed. She then also took herself off to bed...she had no company

Distancing is fun - she was over talkative, nervous and slightly uptight. I was Zenlike. Its a fine balance between politeness and aloofness, friendliness and appearing stonyfaced.

I need to smile more, make eye contact more and remain Zenlike.

Well tomorrow is another day. I am in London working, meeting old friends after work in London and staying in a hotel for the night. I will be back on Thursday evening when W and I will attend a parents evening at S11's new school.

Im feeling more chilled than the last few nights and should sleep ok.