Can ALL marriages be saved Vol. 2

[Avanti]

I asked him to make the pizza, but it's certainly not unusual for him either.
Maybe he was fleeing a bit. We're friendly, but it's still a bit awkward. In the beginning he was never quite sure what mood I would be in, so that feeling of uncertainty probably still lingers. I think mainly it's guilt. As my therapist pointed out, he is still lying to me about the OW, but I think it's because he knows how much it will hurt me.

So you being consistently calm is the way forward to stop his pre-emotive flight response.

I think my next GAL will be to start meditating. I'm waiting for some more money and then I will buy an app from my "guru"

Meditation can be started for free, there are many resources on the Internet and you said you had some books already. Are you sure the waiting to buy an app isn't procrastination?

Tomorrow I am having dinner and drinks with an old acquaintance. H will come watch the monkey, but I'm hoping to be able to put her down first, because he can't, so it totally messes everything up when he tries.

Glad you are going out with others, no (or minimal) talking about your sitch, you are out to enjoy yourself and get away from things. Promise?

Also, I got my first CC today, so now I can start to slowly build credit in my own name. Very happy about that.

This is great, a step towards independence and something your H, when he eventually finds out, (don't tell him let him discover it for himself) will see as you becoming more independent, the new you that's coming through and it'll make him think.