Back on these forums again

[Mona52]

So, I am still a tad bit annoyed that my H asked me to give him money for the kid's cell bill. I have not texted him back yet. Out of the blue, he decides he is going to take them bowling tonight. This will be the second time in 2 months he has seen them.

He will be at my house in 2 hours.So unfortunately I will need to figure out a way to answer him, other than shove the cell phone bill right up his..... wait, that is still an option on how to respond, but for now lets put any shoving up away as a last resort

So I have landed on 2 ways I can handle this.

Way number one, and my favorite, is to smile and thank him very much for deciding we should split the non-essential bills so that it is fair. I will be happy to take one of the phones on my plan. Now that cell is out of the way, he can split 1/2 of the soccer/basketball bill, the school field trip, the homecoming, the class text books and calculators, half of the driving around every day, etc. So far, his half comes to $1,000, and yes, I accept credit cards...

Way number 2 would be for me to say:
"If you insist I pay a cell bill I will. It will be very tight on my budget, but I can do that. The kids have spent almost $2,000 this month in extras like homecoming and things they need for school. Would you be willing to help with any of those bills? By the way, it has been over 2 months and I still have not received any support from you, do you have any idea when I might see something?"

Or I can keep it sweet and simple and tell him to shove the bill so far up his .... you get the idea.


Cr@p, i was doing so well keeping my focus off of that man! But this is really about childcare and not anything R related, so I can deal with that.