Oh wow. Zelda, V, and G...I am so grateful for your support. I needed to hear just that Z! My IC pretty much said they same thing this morning, and reading your post just made it easier to shift my mindset in a way that will allow me to move forward.
Today at IC I was talking about all of my frustrations of the past week. My therapist pointed out that H was starting to set the traps again, like he did right before he had me removed from the house. And she believes it is because he is again feeling a loss of control. And that makes sense. Because the financials need to be dealt with and he has been putting it off. He knows he is going to have to pay up. If he can get me to react emotionally he will have ammo. That ridiculous statement about how I shouldn't be talking about L's or the house in front of the kids is his way of showing his teeth. And it is intimidating, But on closer look I see there is no substance to it. Tthe kids were in the car. It wasn't a hostile comment and it didn't involve them at all. He just needed to make it something to use against me.
He can't hurt me anymore--and we both know that things have gotten to the point in this mess where he has to start losing. I have to recognize his abuse as a sign that the tide is changing, rather than as a threat.
I had a week full of GALs which is nice. Last night I went out with someone I met during a meetup event for drinks and football. We had a great time. Tonight I am going to a meetup event for dinner and comedy at a restaurant I've been dying to try for years. I'm trying. That's all I can do right now.
40s 2teens M14Y BD-10/12/13 rec-1/14 BD2-5/14 rec2-9/14 EA disc-10/14 4/15-BD 3 and triangulation ensues Served with D6/15 MS forced to leave7/15 D agreement signed 8/16 final 5/17
