Photoka's new thread (this one spelled correctly.)

[JulieH]

I like the idea of flowers from the kids. there is never anything harmful about doing something nice...and it sounds like your MIL suffered as well. Finding compassion torward her might be a way for you to grow. I wish women empathized with each other and stuck together more.

I hope you do not mind that I am posting this on your thread (it is so specific that I am afraid if I put it on mine and someone was reading it they would recognize me). But I wanted to share this based on our conversation on my thread..

The day my husband told me he was moving out was Father's Day. The straw that broke the camels back was a comment I had made that day. I was upset because he hadn't spent time with the kids the past prior weekends and then was sleeping all day and went with mom to pay respects to his father instead of spend time with the boys. Instead I took the boys to the park and One of my sons was crying and screaming at me the whole car trip because he thought I was leaving for the park without daddy. I was mad and made this comment over the phone to husband. "Your father was a wonderful man And would rather you actually spend some time with your sons on Father's Day ". Husband told me this was the most hurtful thing I ever said to him and continues to bring it up. Said that I was using his dad's death to inflict guilt. I wish I had not said this, but I did not think it was such a horrendous comment. Now I understand