Cali, I also come from a culture where men never talk about emotion or feelings. When I think of my grandfather, I cant ever remember him showing any emotion. I wish I could be more like that. My dad never showed any emotion until recently when he was diagnosed with cancer. Its weird to see him this way.
Anyway, Thank you all for listening and not judging my irrational thoughts.
Yeah I totally understand and discovered how much this can hold us back. It's that while volcano concept, when we do not share what we need... We expect our spouse to read our signals and just know and fulfill them, when they fail (as they have been set up to) we get pissy and frustrated at them but turns out, it's our own fault and inability to express ourselves
All this ^^^^ adds stress , hence why IC was for me the way to go until I could learn how to express myself and stop taking all that baggage with me everywhere, I used the IC as a dumping spot, I didn't know her nor did she know me... I needed a safe place to purge all my thoughts, feelings ... But mostly fears... Those were the things no man in my family would ever allow someone to see ... I then started learning how and who I could share those things with and realized a true man was not afraid to express himself, in fact it made him a better stronger man
