Your H may still "flee" when he sees you, don't take it personal. He made you pizza and could have chosen not to, say thank you for doing it and that you enjoyed it when you next see him. Have you been quick to praise in the past? If not, maybe now is the time to 180 and start doing so. Nothing over the top and don't shower him in gratitude, a simple thank you if you feel he may have gone out of his way to do something for you.
Do you know which of the 5 love languages (book by Garry Chapman) your husband is most receptive to? The fact that he made the pizza suggests acts of appreciation but that might be a one off "guilt" thing and you know him best. It's worth working out as you'll then know how to best communicate with him.
If you do all end up going to see a movie together, be fun and enjoy yourself, let him engage with you if he chooses and respond, don't get ticked if he doesn't.
Your therapist sounds like they are making sense, look down the road not at where you are now. Consider picturing what you want out of life and the R and use that image to define your goals, then write them down.
The goals word scares some people, what if I don't achieve them, what if it all goes wrong is probably going through their mind. The reality is if they aren't written down there is no chance of them happening. They aren't a weight to hold you down, they are tools to help you soar.
What is your next GAL activity?
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
