Where to begin? Part 2

[Dawgs]

Thank you, Thornton. I don't know what I would do if it weren't for your help. You are helping me to right this seemingly un-rightable ship.

Detaching is for you, E.

I know. And it is helping me to not have so many nutty moments. I just get so worried at times that by my detaching and acting as if "OK, do whatever you want" will give her mind a green light.

Some days are much much harder. I am really working on being OK with me. That I know I have to get in order first. My counselor has been a great help so far - I like going to her because she asks the tough questions and explains things better than any other has so far, and she also doesn't let me off easy, either. Sometimes I need that kick in the arse.

And the anniversary thing, don't look into that. Think of your w as being temporarily abducted by aliens. They brainwashed her (fog) and it's going to take some time for her to find her way out. And remember, you can't help her find her way out. But you can keep the front porch light on for her.

Great analogy, sir. I try to be that front porch light and I feel that I really have made a lot of progress returning to where I was before. I want to think that maybe one day she will notice. But, what is the best way to be the front porch light while being detached and practicing DBing?

Yesterday she had off for the holiday, so she asked if we could do some stuff together. It was a nice day. We went out for lunch and did some shopping and also a bit around the house. I kept all relationship stuff out of it. Just a really nice day. We never did have any talk to sort stuff out as I posted about earlier - guess it never came up or she was just enjoying things. She did make it a point to really talk about the house and what she wants to do with it - although earlier she had said that if we do D, then I could stay in the house. I have to learn to not read into things!

Thank you again for your time and help!