LBH w/ a WW trying to save my M

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Okay, good. But what is your plan if she does speak to you disrespectfully?

My plan is to put in my headphones and walk away. If she does it in txt msg I will not respond.

Not good. You just proved you are lying. You just told her you do not speak to her that way.........then you turned around and did it. You just told her you would not be spoken to that way, and she challenged you by doing exactly that.

Yeah.....I knew I blew it here. I'm usually pretty good at controlling my tongue but that one slipped out. I will be more disciplined.

The headphones were working fine until you challenged her. Calling each other names is about as childish as it gets. Putting the headphones back on after that, could be symbolic to sticking your fingers in your ears and poking out your tongue, making a face at her. If it wasn't so sad, it would be comical.

Yes, I agree. Name calling is a go to for her throughout our M and I've been pretty good at controlling myself. At least I only said it once and nothing more. She continued with the name calling throughout the night but I just pretended I couldn't hear anything she was saying bc of my headphones.

Do you think the headphones are a good strategy? She started again this morning and I put them in again. I was about to leave, had my headphones on, the music hadn't started yet. I could still hear her but I pretended I couldn't. She was trying to tell me the parenting plan begins today, that I don't get to go to the gym every night and since I was gone last weekend that I would be responsible for D4 this weekend. I know the parenting plan doesn't start until I sign the documents and the court orders it. So I will not let her push me around. I plan to go to the gym after work tonight and continue to go to the gym every night.

Do I send her a text that says "I've tried to make it clear. I will not be spoken to disrespectfully any longer." ?