I have finally, finally stopped monitoring his presence on social media. I would always work myself into a frenzy when I saw that he was online, because it would remind me of OW's existence. And I kept our text exchanges so that I could read and reread them. I kept picking at my wounds and refusing to let them heal.
Since the divorce, I have stopped obsessing over whether he's with the OW, physically, or communicating through texts. I no longer have any right to expect him not to, and no longer have any reason to subject myself to this torture. Which is why I really admire forummers who can do the light and breezy thing with their WWS.
I expect that I will still move through the various stages of grief, but I know that I can still feel the pain and not be consumed by it.
I am going dimmer. And it seems that XH is going dimmer too.
Last edited by Grlonfr; 10/13/1501:03 PM.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
