If you mean a WW, then that depends on a few things. For example, if your family knows everything, or not. What the family's attitude is toward you W. Mostly, you just never know the "whys?" behind the action of a WW. When it comes to attending family events/holidays, for some reason the WW wants to think the pretense should continue, or if she's in public, she doesn't want to be alone and will want you to sit with her or whatever. It's crazy.
Selfishness is their main motivator. She's getting something out of it, or she wouldn't do it.
Very wise words, Sandi. My family - as in my brother and his W - know pretty much everything, but my parents don't. As we were driving to the party, my W said something to the effect of feeling like she was going into the lion's den. However, she acted like she had a good time and interacted with everyone. In fact, she acted like the old days when things were good. Head scratcher, for sure.
Now, I have another question - the W had said several times that if we don't work out, then we would end up being the best of friends. If we don't work, I have no intention of being the best of friends - or pals, buddies, or whatever. The way I feel about it, either we will be married or acquaintances, but I can't be buddies. How does one approach that? Is "working on our friendship and being comfortable with each other" during our separation something normal, or is that a set up for the friend zone? Any thoughts/ideas on how to handle that???
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
