Sandi2 ...Thanks for your thoughtful reply.

1. Testosterone check - Ive booked an appt with the doctor on Thursday - its worth checking for sure
2. W has always had the same sex drive and I think has had a lot, lot more partners than me (possibly 20-40) mainly during college days - flings as she calls them. In contrast I have had 6 including W. She never really told me as she thought I would get jealous/mad
3.She doesn't want sex with me...I cant hug her and she wont even let me massage her feet,,,her favourite massage of all.
4. My goals need adjusting into actionable ones....more later
5. a joint MC is on the backburner unless she initiates it...i will see one on my own for now

I am not snooping now.....that was back in 2012

I will try to write my sexual history which is a little complicated and put it into context with hers and our SSM.


Me49 W45
T15 M13
S11 S8
BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12
Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12
W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing!
May-Oct14 drifting
Dec 14 W agrees to more QT
BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY
W filed 1/25/16