Yes, I cheerfully greeted D4 at the game but not her. And yes, when she walked in the office. I cheerfully said good morning. Mistake?
Just didn't understand the inconsistency.
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I definitely want to cause her to sense I'm gone w/out completely closing the door on R. I'm doing GALing at least twice a week. I'm going to the gym 4-5 nights a week right after work. I'm not initiating conversations most of the time. I had to tonight. Part of mediation agreement gave me the option to move out and she had to go to IC at least 2x month. I had til the 20th to make a decision about moving out. I told her tonight the IC was manipulative of me and I don't care if she goes to IC or not. It's not helpful if she doesn't want to go. I also told her I would not be moving out. She then began name calling. I walked away. I got my headphones
Great job!
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I do not speak you this way and I will not be spoken to like this
Okay, good. But what is your plan if she does speak to you disrespectfully?
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She said "you're a whore and that's why we're getting a divorce." I said "you're a whore"
Not good. You just proved you are lying. You just told her you do not speak to her that way.........then you turned around and did it. You just told her you would not be spoken to that way, and she challenged you by doing exactly that.
The headphones were working fine until you challenged her. Calling each other names is about as childish as it gets. Putting the headphones back on after that, could be symbolic to sticking your fingers in your ears and poking out your tongue, making a face at her. If it wasn't so sad, it would be comical.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
