Hi Bright, thanks for stopping by and giving me support :o)
Originally Posted By: BrightFuture
You H feels guilty in spite the fact that there was no OW when he ended the M. My situation was similar. I always thought that in my case there would be no guilt feelings or remorse because H didn’t cheat on me. In one of his “speeches” he told that he ending our M will actually be good for me. So, in his mind he actually was doing me a favor, LOL. From reading what your H told you, I think that it might not be true after all.
It seems a lot of MLC'er have this feeling of guilt and shame about what they have done to their s and family, it must be really painful to look back and see that you caused so much hurt and destruction to the lives of those you love. In my h case he says he is struggling with guilt because he feels he does not deserve me after what he did. Why should he get to feel happiness, love etc when he took mine away - its something he has to come to terms with and accept if we are to move forwards. As a default setting of "waiting for the rejection email" I have a fear that his guilt is from him just using me to get him through this time. Insecure me coming out to play.
h text this morning as he heard that last night we had a fairly big Earthquake where I live. He wanted to know that we (S18 and me) were ok. We are and it was not as major as it sounds, it was a decent shake but was deep down and fairly quick so no damage done. Nice of him to check up on us though.
