If XH had had his rampages anywhere outside the house, he would have been arrested immediately. That was how bad his rampages were. And during the rampages,I had always warned him that I would not hesitate to call the police if he so much as laid a finger on me.

If his behaviour is not acceptable with strangers, or even at work, why should it be acceptable with his family?

Even when I was emotionally detached, I had never been unfaithful to XH. There were many opportunities and interested parties, and their attention was flattering, but no, I couldn't do it.

Even when I found out about his affair, which must have gone on for quite a few years, I was so tempted to do a tit for tat and I could have. But I just couldn't. Which is why I don't agree with the another sites view that everyone is predisposed to affairs; we may all be faced with temptations but not all will make the conscious decision to cross the line.

Last edited by Cadet; 10/13/15 11:12 AM. Reason: per forum agreement no mention of other sites
You can call me Dory/ Grl.

As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"

It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.