Definitely abandon the R talks - it's not bearing any fruit right now, so leave it well alone.
From her answers, it seems like she wants some space. Can you do something that gets you out of the way for a short while?
She thinks that you're blanking her? That's her worry, you're getting along doing your thing. Remember, this is what she wants, right? Give her a teaser of her future and she might not like it.
There seems to be a lot of history of BD's in your signature. After you have got back together, has there been any kind of MC or professional help? Has old resentment come back to haunt er out?
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015