I'm equally shocked that on a forum dedicated to saving marriages that so many people are so quick to justify walking away. I get it. All of our marriages stank. That's the same reason they left. Either all of our WAS's were right because they could all say the same thing, or we need to walk the walk.
Originally Posted By: Zues126
But anyone that wants to say that she was right to destroy my family, well, no need to visit my thread and post.
There is no excuse for what the WAW does however they do what they FEEL needs to be done. Kind of like a wounded animal thrashing around destroying everything in sight. Petting this animal won't make it heal, or stop its destruction. It needs to go off and be on its own and heal with no other distractions. They are in fight or flight mode and nothing we do, can stop it. We can only stay out of the way and be the best parents possible. How long will that take? Who knows? So the best thing we can do for our children is to show them by our actions that we are strong and able to continue to live our life to the fullest.
I do think the LBS has the most power in all of this.
They get the final decision about all that happens. If you have not yet gotten the final decision yet then the final decision has not yet been made.
