Alligator Love

[Zues126]

When I said high risk industry I meant occupationally. Just to clarify.

Yeah, my mom is out on the relationship. She has been through this before with my father. She wouldn't take it then when she was married with family, and she darn well isn't going to start now.

I will tell her it's a hung jury. I will also tell her I believe in telling the other man. Just tell him, then move on from ALL of it. Not as a ploy. Not as revenge. But because I'd want to know. And I think A's are like cancer, they grow stronger if left untreated. Hit them with the radiation of truth and let the chips fall where they will.

I debated, and asked myself if I would tell someone if I knew their spouse had a gambling problem, a drug problem, or something else. Not sure. But frankly there are a couple of reasons this seems different. One, I've been through it and I know how destructive it is (admitting to my bias). Two, it is one of the few things that really crosses the line of truly unacceptable behavior.

Thank you Julie for the pep talk. I'm going a little batty as you can tell by my posts on Grlnfr's thread. I don't know what to think anymore. I think I'm glad I'm still legally M and don't have any reason to consider another R with anyone else for a long time. Right now it just seems like a matter of when they cheat and leave, not if. But I realize this is a phase of my grieving.

Sunny, thanks for being a pal even when I make you shake your head sometimes.