Glad to hear you spoke your mind, Wet. Sorry you didn't feel safe saying it before in your marriage.
I would imagine with such a high anxiety, it's going to be hard for her to process your thoughts or see that her desire to feel "safe" and her actions don't seem to line up with common ideas on the subject.
How's your dad?
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
