Zues...there was so much good advice in your old thread! Thanks again for the link. I knew this last night, but doing nothing except self-work right now is going to be key. I'm so happy with the advice I gleaned from your thread!!!
I was so focused on the negative earlier, I forgot to report the interesting question I was asked by H.
He asked where I was, and after I told him, he asked (with the strangest tone of voice) if I'd gone out to be with someone else. I replied, of course not!
I don't know if he was relieved or sad because I'm still loyal. I can tell you though...the idea really bothered him. I think it might be the first time he realized I might not just be content to sit around and let him deposit poop all over me without taking action.
I've been devouring DR again today. Every time I read it, something new pops out at me! I should just read it daily...lol
I was wise to remove myself until emotions settled down. Apparently, I asked H last night where my dad's handgun was at. I know that was depression talking, but I hate that it happened, since it's one of his biggest challenges with me.
He thought I was going to shoot him with it! I told him, no, I would never hurt him. We dropped it after that. These emotional shocks keep knocking me off-kilter! I long to have more control over that, or a more understanding spouse. Maybe one day...
I am not ready to give up. After reading through the stages of relationships, I want to get to level 5!!! At this moment, I care about me, my family, H, and not going down the Divorce trap. Getting ready to do some very specific goal-setting.
She's telling you to respond in any way you wish, who cares about reassuring him right now, he should be scared shitless that he messed up and might be losing the best thing that ever happened to him. We all know you are faithful and loving and standing by him, but a little dose of fear of what he could be losing never hurt anyone.
And you should keep taking good care of yourself, no more even thinking about handguns. Extreme self care. Extreme. You are worth it to us and we just met you. Imagine what you are worth to your children, your friends, your family. Your H even, although he has his head up his ass right now.
Me53 H48 M 13 No children together BDMay '15 PA June '15 H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
She's telling you to respond in any way you wish, who cares about reassuring him right now, he should be scared shitless that he messed up and might be losing the best thing that ever happened to him. We all know you are faithful and loving and standing by him, but a little dose of fear of what he could be losing never hurt anyone.
And you should keep taking good care of yourself, no more even thinking about handguns. Extreme self care. Extreme. You are worth it to us and we just met you. Imagine what you are worth to your children, your friends, your family. Your H even, although he has his head up his ass right now.
Take care of Ancaire right now, not H's feelings.
You got it!
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
Bombs from yesterday, bottom of page 6, bottom of page 8, bottom of page 10...last thread.
His bombs!
As far as you are concerned no explosion.
They were defused.
Now you consider how to deal with someone who plants bombs in your country behind your boundaries. You have resourced Al Turtle on boundaries? What does he think you should do with a defused bomb?
I will keep checking in as a founder member of your bomb squad A team. There is a coterie waiting here at your command.
V
Last edited by Vanilla; 10/13/1502:45 AM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
