Letting go, really hurts (Smothy 9)

[Pyrite]

well i have no specific experience of this with a 19 year old, and as a 19 year old I didn't need to be told as I was in the middle of it.

it is highly likely that you are making more of this than what will actually happen He might just shrug it off and ask so what's for dinner then?

I really dont like how your STBX is plotting the course here AND it is wrong!! wait until December, WTF!! so what is his plan with OW then? It will be FAR more damaging for your son to bump into OW thinking you are still together, and then your idiot H spilling the beans on the spot as an instant justification of why he is not cheating on his mother.

i think you will be as surprised as when you spoke to your mum about it.

you know your son best, and the particulars of how you might bring it up - but i would suggest only this - the TRUTH!! let the pieces fall where they may, but coming back from "the truth" will be far easier than smoothing things over with half-truths and lies.


I am screwed myself ATM with all this court crap - BUT - if/when I am put on the stand I am not rehearsing and I don't need to be nervous. All I will tell the court is the truth. That is all I have ever told anyone and so I dont have to remember who I have told what etc. It simplifies things a great deal. My STBX however has spun herself a nasty little web now. She has lied to everyone, me, friends, family our children. now the court and immigration department. about even more stuff. i dont think she even knows what is true anymore.

on another note - i know i have been telling you that we can walk away from this and gracefully into another R....... this sorta like telling the truth stuff above. Sadly, in recent days/weeks, I am skeptical that I want to put myself in this position again. I trusted my W and look how that has turned out. Now she wants to take away my children from me.