Hi Sandi, thank you for responding to my posting but I am not sure of your question.
I have done EVERYTHING a LBH should not do over the last 1.5 years. I snooped, journaled events, confronted OM, posted a blog, gave ultimatum. Obviously none of that worked and learned I have to let go of this behavior (does neither of us any good).
180s.. things I have NOT done before. Small gifts (ie. flowers) kids give to her to show appreciation for things she does for them; be supportive and not question her actions (that’s everything but the A). Not being supportive is truly my downfall (and is my biggest 180 I can do for myself) but it does NOT offer detachment.
I set small goals for the week (do more of as DB suggest), exercise, and not talk about the R unless she brings it up.
