So true. In fact, when my husband blindsided me and said we hadn't been good for each other, didn't bring out the best in each other, I tried to remind him that a lot of the stuff he was talking about has to come from within. We can't rely on other people to makes us better.
I feel like since I'm the LBS and I'm GAL'ing and in therapy etc and he just moved into another R, there will come a time where I will come out healed and a better person and he will not have dealt with anything and still be miserable.
