I have looked at this whole thing from her perspective. I do believe that she does not see how her relationship with this guy has gotten to a level where anyone could say that it is anything but inappropriate. She is mad that I questioned her.
I guess that I expected her reaction to be nothing but defensive and angry.
I was surprised that she HAD read a bit of online articles on EA's and yet still would not even consider that all that I spoke about was not the same, or that this was not something that could happen to us. As if our relationship was so strong that would never be able to happen.
I don't want to push things, I have been giving her space and time for years. At some point she needs to want to work on herself and to face the real communication and intimacy problems in our marriage before we could ever move forward towards a authentic loving relationship.
Illinois requires a minimum separation time before divorce is able to be signed. I will not live in an 'in-home' separation (well I guess I've done that already for a few years, haven't I) moving forward, if that is where things lead. we make enough money that if we needed to we could afford separate living accommodations (won't be easy - but if necessity pushes, it can be done). I am not ready to call it quits, but there is only so much that I can take...I don't want to spend the rest of my life living in a house full of resentment.
