Hi tl2, I have just read your sitch. Thanks for your perspective on my thread.
I can't really offer much advice. But what I do know is that the XH has negated all that was good about the marriage too. Made me feel a little delusional before I came here and realised that this is what they all say when there's an OP.
It's a tough balancing act btw telling the kids the truth about their mum while not being painting her to be the all out villain.
My kid is only 7 but she knows a lot. She knows that mummy is sad that daddy has left her for another woman. Ouch! But I tell her that what happens isn't her fault, and that daddy and mummy still love her. Despite all that has happened, she still loves and needs her daddy.
I guess it really is harder for you since your kids are adults. As far as I can tell, you're doing a great job. And the vets here are giving you great advice.
Last edited by Grlonfr; 10/12/1503:16 PM.
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