Divorced by 2016

[Maybell]

Hi, A -- thank you so much for your kind words on my thread. I'll answer those points on my thread but I do appreciate your reaching back to me.

WRT your financial discussions and worries -- a couple of things.

If you sign up for an online financial management service like Mint you will be able to capture all your expenses and income sources in one place, even retroactively, and you won't have to worry that you've missed something. Alternatively, you can ask your financial mediator to suggest a coach or advisor who can help you put everything together. I would recommend the free online service, though, because it's the simplest, most time efficient, and there is no chance of missing anything. I've been using it intensively for the last four years and it has definitely helped me understand and manage my financial situation, even when I was sharing it with my inattentive Mr. Fantastic before BD.

Hats off to you for being able to negotiate with your H on anything divorce related. I declined to, to keep my sanity. I wish you a smooth and favorable process. Don't worry too much about how he'll manage his own finances. That's on him, especially given that he left the marriage. Make sure you get yourself and your kids well-supported so your life eases up.

Thanks for the hugs. Back atcha!!!