I have observed they fall into several categories none of which seem terribly stable. It could be that a WAS or MLC looks to find an ego boost so chooses an easily influence OP, who is not developed as a person and often less than spouse.
Here is Vs a light look at some categories of OP:
1. An innocent or numpty, perhaps young but inexperienced easily persuaded and availability is total. This type is likely to cling and be dependent, to want long term and permanent. Will have poor boundaries as inexperienced, likely that WS will cheat on OW and cover it up. Will post lots of cute couple pictures on fb once WS is S. Could feel guilty if A exposed. Prognosis for long term poor as naive will grow up as the limmerance wears off.
2. Narc overt or covert Only interested in married partners, keen to break up marriage to boost own ego. Initially dangerous but will get bored and moves on to break up next marriage. May even tease but ultimately pull away. May break up marriage deliberately to feel superior. May even marry for money before moving on, leaves WS poorer. Do not challenge as this will only increase the ego boost for the narc. prognosis for long term non existent.
3. BPD Will stalk WS, charm and then bunny boil. Hard to get rid of, think Glenn Close or the H in gaslight. Stay out of the way of the venom and let WS deal with the Sitch. Will burn out and repel WS as the mask falls. Could be dangerous, LBS strategy you can have him/her long term no chance.
4. Drama Queen or Poison Baby Will run down spouse of WS as is afraid the spouse is wonderful and feels inferior. Will try to poison WS against spouse, may turn up on LBS doorstep and say leave WS alone, likely to spy, accuse WS of cheating with spouse, will tantrum and be petulant. gives WS a taste of own medicine. May even attempt to alienate children and family of WS. Master in emotional blackmail. No challenge directly by LBS, flirt with WS will drive this type into more bad behaviour and make more insecure. Short term only.
5. Skank, pond scum and easy lay or bike Exactly what it says on the tin, for one night only or a repeat late nighter. Sex available but not always that good. Very insecure and often superficial, may even be married and a serial cheat. A danger to health. No self respect and no respect from WS either. Could even be an escort. WS likely not to want to acknowledge connection. Not worth a thought. Not even short term.
6. In lurve soulmate Ideal companion in early flushes of infatuation but in the fullness of time every day life will cause tensions as WS has to meet increasing demands of a more normal relationship. Ultimately brown grass not greener grass. Possible longer term but likely a transitional partner to asuage loneliness and aid movement. Allow to run its course, if LBS interferes then it is WS and OP against the world. Lasting up to 2 years.
7. Lost love Rose coloured glasses, the past relationship between the two failed to make it because of incompatibility or perhaps never started so will this. WS unlikely to meet lost loves expectations or memory especially if they are in MLC. Illusion shattered. lasting up to 2 years.
8. Charmer or Mata Hari More selective than one nighter chooses the most attractive prey or may be for money. Sex as art. May play games and may be satisfied with EA, long play in seduction after control. No interest in a R at all. About the conquest not the sex. This is all about the chase, may even be married. Could be a work colleague or long distant. Might be a catfish or online. Once caught will extract and leave WS wanting. Will not tolerate chase. Ignore as no relationship possible.
Hope this brought you a smile ------------------------------
Just for fun.
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Last edited by Vanilla; 10/12/1502:46 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
