WH just had a spell break, his choice of OW was his. He had to learn something, let him do it.
If needs be, just truth dart, "your choice WH".
I suspect alcohol had something to do with it too.
Be a lady, let alone. When WH has absorbed his spell break he may do any number of things- want to piece his R with you, select another OW, become depressed, use substances or seek IC.
What do you want?
A healthy R and a healthy H?
In which case WH may need to do much work!
It is his internal work to do.
All you can do is provide an environment in which recovery is possible, you work on you, so WH cleans up the pooh in his sandpit. Until he does and he gets it, you are correct work on you.
If this were me then I would take this WH scenario and turn it into a mini movie, who would you have playing you? Can I suggest sweet gentle Jennifer Aniston? Who would you have for OW? Aggressive Pink character, Psycho Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction? And who for WH? Freddie Kruger?
Also be aware that WH may be drama addicted, his choice of this particular type of OW may indicate that there are some real issues to resolve. If you can keep details from him, conversation recorded in case you need that for a non mol at some stage.
Take very great care with this drama queen type.
I once tried to type the OW and OMs for Dawn. It may make you smile, if I can find it I will post it.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
