And I guess I didn't make this part clear. There are only 2 outbursts in our marriage. But, and this is a big but, the family has a tendency to walk on eggshells around XH.
We couldn't say anything remotely critical or comparative or XH would be unhappy. A conversation about someone else's promotion or new car/ house becomes a slight about his ability. A family member comments about his driving being jerky and someone else has to step in quickly to change the subject.
All these things can light his fuse. He won't go on a rampage but he will be amgry. The problem is you can't really tell when and what something would affect him and to what extent.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
