Couple notes on the relationship. Spoke to the kids Saturday evening and D7 tells me that they are getting ready to eat dinner and stay with Aunt and uncle and mommy is going out to meet her cousins. This made me very angry. uh oh...
the kids dont really know these people as they are W aunt and uncle. they have seen them when they were babies but that was it. I told wife i did not agree with this as they dont really know them and if that was the plan she could have left them at home with me. why would you say this? All it does is question your W's ability as a mother. Do you think she would possibly "see your side" and change her plans? From the way your worded it, couldnt she also have gone out after they were asleep? Were you SURE she left bedtime to aunt/uncle? What harm is there in running out once all the kids are in bed?
I know the kids are very clingy at night and dont like being in strange places alone. Do you think she doesnt know this? Are they really in any danger here? Do you distrust any of the people involved?
I am sure W was not happy that i expressed my opinion, but i felt it needed to be said for moving forward into the separeation that she will not be leaving them with people while she goes out. She...WONT? Or you dont want her to?
I will be the one to take them if she cant wait for days she is not with them. So youre planning to be the on-call babysitter? I dont think you want that...
