Hi Sunny, tough question. You're not the only one who has been asking me this. My C has been asking me this as well, even though she is pro-marriage.

For the record, I can't really say that there is a lot, if any love, left. But there are some feelings left about the M, and even then, they seem to be running out.

XH has the tendency to mouth off the meanest things when he's angry. Btw the two of us, I am the more verbal one, and it seems that this is one of the tactics he resorts to when he feels aggrieved. He really knows what to say to hurt me. Then again, I can give it back to him as well, although I don't make personal attacks like that.

I guess when we decided to marry, we were still high on the euphoria of being in love. I opened up to him warts and all and he didn't run, so I thought he was a keeper. And while I knew that he could be impatient, there was no indication that he could snap like that.

Throughout the marriage, there were many times when I felt hurt by his reactions towards what I thought was part and parcel of life. He couldn't deal with the inconvenient parts in life, so I dealt with them as best as I could on my own.

In his own way, perhaps to the best that he could, he did try to make life easier for me as well. When we travelled with the extended family, he would suggest places that he knew that I liked. He would also suggest that I take my family out for trips as well. He was considerate towards my parents, and he chauffeured us around a lot.

I am a very light sleeper, and he avoided using the flush at night because the noisy plumbing would wake me up.

You can call me Dory/ Grl.

As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"

It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.