PP 2.0 - PigPen & The WAW (7)

[asitis]

I think Wonka is right on. It is very tempting to take the offer, as we miss our friend too. The problem is, it isn't our friend who will be showing up. It is someone who is basically suing us to get out of a supposedly committed R. Yes, it is good that she still has some feelings for you and misses you. It is one thing to chat during dog swap.

The other thing to think of is how she would have reacted if the offer had come from you?

You don't have to be mean about all this. Just be honest. I'm uncomfortable with that right now. I'd like to be friends again some day, and I appreciate that we are handling this so much better than most couples going through a D. But for now, I think we keep things to the way we are doing things.

No sorry. No apology. Just matter of fact. No spelling out why - she should be able to figure out why once you say it isn't the right time for this. You are drawing a boundary to protect yourself. This is tough love for her. She needs to know that she will have to earn the chance to be friends if she wants it, and how she treats you during this phase will be part of that. This is the reality of the path she has chosen. And, you are pointing out how good you are doing as a couple at this most difficult time in any R along the rest of the message.

Good luck. It's tempting and will be hard to pass on.