zues, I can see your point about the spouse being as important as the kids in a marriage. Which I don't disagree with. But when it comes to safety, I will definitely have to put my kid's safety before my spouse. My spouse is perfectly capable of protecting himself, whether he snaps or not. My kid has only me for protection.
My XH is not a bad person. Trust me, I was in a lot of pain before I made the decision to file, and I still am in pain. I can only hope that the pain will eventually fade with time. On the one hand, I know that XH is not a bad person. Not perfect definitely, but he was not a bad man doing a bad thing. But a good man doing a bad thing can be as dangerous as a bad man doing a bad thing, if the good man doesn't ever realise what he's doing.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
