Girlonf, let me ask you a hard question. Why do you want to R with your H? Beyond "I love him," because sometimes that's not enough. Is he kind and caring? A good father? A good provider? What is it about him that makes you want to be with him, to salvage this? Are there other things involved? Embarrassment? Fear? A sense of failure?
No one is perfect, not you, not me, not my STBX, not your H. But I look at your sich and see a man prone to violent outbursts, who blames you for causing them, who calls you a prostitute, who scares the bejeebers out of your child, and I wonder why you don't just cut and run. I'm not saying you should, mind you, this is a marriage saving site and I firmly believe in marriage and overcoming difficulties. I'm just wondering what's there that's worth saving.
Why did you marry him? There were good things. Tell me what they were.
