Where do I go from here, pt. 3

[Avanti]

beckyb, I love your goals, you have obviously spent a lot of time preparing them. Had you considered adding something that you can use to measure their success?

Without this what may happen, as it does to others, is that you'll use the benefit of hindsight when you come to review their success of failure and that usually ends up in a degree of overly, self-critical appraisal. Defining your measurement now means there is a greater potential for your review to be more balanced.

It's been been 3 1/2 months since things blew up for me. I was a complete wreck in the beginning but thought I was doing ok. The last week I have been a mess again.

Sorry to hear that you feel you have slipped backward, your recovery time is so much quicker than before though, which is great news.

This is my way of trying to stay on track. This, and finally turning everything over to God. I have no control over H, very little control over the timing of D and no idea what the future holds. But He knows. I'm holding on to that.

Another big step towards detachment.

So you may feel you have taken 2 steps backward, but there are two big steps forward over this weekend.

Over the weekend I too have refreshed my goals (not going to publish them) and they feel good and they fit with the SMART (specific, measurable, achievable, results-focused, and time- bound) definitions (which in some ways I hate but they do make sense), which I am really proud of.

I also started and am currently finishing off a plan for the next month or so, to keep me focussed and will act as my navigation tool so that I can consult it rather than my emotions as things progress.

Even though there may be some storms we will have to deal with our future's are bright beckyb!