[BrightFuture]

Thanks Job, FY, Ggrass, Sotto, Gwen for your posts on my previous thread
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2585846&page=11

Depression is the main ingredient in MLC. As for the AD medication, he may get it and not take it or he'll take it and discover that he's not quite himself, i.e., possible side effects, and go off of the meds. If he is taking ADs, he needs to see his physician periodically to ensure that he's taking the right dosage...I wonder how he's managing that while being on the road. Time will tell on this one.

I don't see him entering another stage of the crisis just yet. If he's in the very deep, dark depression/withdrawal, he wouldn't be reaching out to your son just yet. My friend was still in the replay stage when he got ADs, tried them and then stopped taking them.

Job, I don’t know when he started taking the AD meds. He definitely got them from a doctor when he was working in that state up North, this is what the address on the package indicated. He could have been on the med for a while now. He has a VA doctor, so who knows what kind of monitoring they do there.

Whatever stage he is in his MLC, I’m still glad that he reached out to my son. I just hope that it is not for any other reason, but to connect.

FY, you are always my biggest supporter when it comes to hope. Sometimes I feel like I’m just trying to live in a fantasy world of H coming back to reality someday… If I share this with other people, I normally get slammed really hard for having this fantasy. When I read your posts to me, I feel that I’m not alone, and these are real feelings of hope that I’m having. Not sure if I make sense here, LOL.

All I would read in ad medication is his life ain't as roses as he wants people to believe and it's not smooth sailing with the ow.

Ggrass, yes, this is what I’m thinking too, that his life is not what he tried to portray to others. BTW, I don’t know if that woman was/is an ow. This was just my speculation based on the info I had. I think he wanted her to be ow, but something didn’t work out.

Hi Bright, I agree with the others. It is always good to maintain hope and I think there is always hope if the door is open a tiny bit at your end.

However, I think the thing to watch out for is the 'watching' and the 'wondering.' There is always a danger that we continue orbiting around our WAS's - even though much time may have passed. Much better to have a separate orbit and be living our own lives with little regard for what they may be doing. There is still quite a focus on your H in your posts and perhaps this is something to think about...

Thanks Sotto. You are absolutely right. I do think that I’ve been “watching” and “wondering” too much about H. I know that I need to work on that. You are also right that my posts are mostly about “news” related to H. I think I’m using this board exclusively for this. I do have my own life, I just don't post much about everything I do and feel outside of stuff related to H. Guilty of that. Like job mentioned in her post, it is always nice to hear from people about how their lives progressing and how they are healing. I will try to post more about me.

I am honestly more of a "realist" - the door to my marriage is not bolted shut but as time goes on the odds are not good that H is going to have an sort of epiphany. Like you I also have to accept that geography is another obstacle.

Gwen, I think about this often. Then I read Lou’s post and it gives me hope…