Sex should be the pinnacle of your emotional and physical connection with your wife. Why would treating it like an appointment or a chore be healthy, let alone romantic? How does that give her the impression that you want anything more from her than sex? Maybe you set days that's is an option...but if she doesn't want to, how is saying its "your day" increase your connection?
She said "I want a divorce". Why would you continue or start to do things for her now?
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