You're right, it didn't start yesterday. She has been very upset with me before for little things. She gets upset easily.

I know that I am part of the problem. I know that I am not perfect. I am more interested in sex than her. I want sex in the mornings and she doesn't, so we made a compromise about which days are mine and which days are hers. And although she is permissive on my days, she still complains about it.

I had a very similar problem in my last marriage. But my current marriage is complicated by another problem. My ex is very demanding and my wife thinks I let her walk all over me. I understand now that I need to take a stand with my current wife and not pay heed to my ex. And I need to stand up better to my ex and her husband.

I appreciate very much all the help I get on here and realize that I need to work on pursuing less. That is a so hard for me.

Today I was asking her why she wouldn't let me hug her. (That was before I read your advice.) I realize now that I should just leave her alone.

But things have gotten better. This morning, I made her breakfast, which she ate and she let me help her do her fingernails.

My wife is asking for a divorce and I don't completely understand why.