The fact is I did not want to be the typical angry ex who is filled with hatred and bitterness. I just can't afford to be bitter and filled with hatred for different reasons but mainly for my physical health.
You are on the edge of anger and heading toward denial, once again you need to accept this is part of your journey, don't rush it, embrace it and know that it's all part of the process try to escape it will simply make it longer and more pain full.
Originally Posted By: Mars
Last night I was having thoughts about what my WW has been doing (either out with a guy or not). I am having a hard time trying to let go of these thoughts. I know that it is not my business anymore but it is had. Any suggestions?
These types of thoughts haunt us all in the beginning especially and the quicker you bring them under control the better. What starts out as a dark thought, goes round and round in your head and each time it makes the circuit it gets embellished to a point where it blocks out all other thoughts and makes for a miserable place to be.
Breaking this cycle can take many forms, praying, spiritual or non-spiritual meditation or simple thought replacement, take some time to research what might work for you. After a bit of practice you will learn to quickly recognise these unwanted thoughts and then can gently deal with them to stop them becoming mental monsters. Finding what worked for me was one of the biggest steps for me, I felt transformed within a few days as it felt like I'd got back control of my own grey matter. If you aren't sure what route to take, ask on her and you'll get plenty of advice and things to consider.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
