Yesterday my wife said something that threw me for a loop. I have recovered from my emotional plunge into darkness. I realized after that in some ways I still need to do a lot of work. .
You are asking a lot of yourself to expect to be impervious to your W's comments, it's the speed of recovery that changes plus also the understaniding that they aren't necessarily said to hurt you, they are often a result of some hurt that she is feeling but she is unable or unwilling to express directly.
Ask yourself now, what did she actually say and then what feeling caused her to say it? When you unmask the real villain (her feeling), it may make your pain a little harder to deal with. On the other hand, don't try to mind read, it'll get you know where, so dont spend too much time on it, move onto other more enjoyable and fulfilling tasks.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
