Can ALL marriages be saved Vol. 2

[Mona52]

Hi Gmum,
It still seems as though your are too caught up in what he might do, or what he is thinking, and you spend time thinking about what might happen, or what you believe never can happen. I get it, it is so easy to get completely lost in these thoughts. But you have to find a way to rise way high above these thoughts.

The only way I was able to do that was to become obsessed about something I was positive would be completely impossible. At the time I started DB'ing, my impossible obsession was to go and get my degree, even though I was a single mom of 3 small children.

You dont have to do that, or anything close to that. It would just be helpful to you if you could throw caution to the wind and try really hard to do something big. Because big things require so much of our concentration. Also, when we try for big things, we get admiration from others. Since this is something we are starving for in our M, it helps keep us a float when where feel like drowning in thoughts.

I know you do not believe it, but as you push on, and turn the focus on you, he will be a person that you may go a few days without thinking about once. It does not mean you are giving up, or you love him any less. It just means you love him so much that you are willing to fight that hard.

I cant promise easy days ahead, but it is all worth it.