LBH w/ a WW trying to save my M

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You said nothing was said. Anything else happen. A little kissing, hugging?

Nothing more. No Kissing. She was the little spoon so her head was on my arm and my other arm around her.

No, I am not saying you should have kicked her out! If you did nothing, then I think you handled it right. I think she'll do it again, so don't be caught off guard. If she starts kissing, you may need to ask her what she calls herself doing (or something similar). You will want to have sex, of course, but I think it would be a mistake. Don't be mean or "kick her out" by trying to see how rude or cold you can be to her. You don't have to be hateful. But I think she should see that you are not easily manipulated by her emotional swings.

I'm glad I didn't kick her out, be mean or rude. It has also given me the opportunity to act nonchalant about it. I haven't reached out to her, will not reach out and I will not bring it up. .

What would she think, say, or do if you went to her bed and spooned with her......? Somehow, women seem to think it is unacceptable for the man.....

she'd be ticked off and it would ruin all the progress I'm making

but it's okay if she decides to do the same thing. That's b/c she calls the shots when it comes to sex, and she will use sex, if needed.

I will not be abused or manipulated by her anymore

You see, nothing would suit a WW better than to be able to give the H a little spooning in bed, and that would be all he required to get back into the MR. It is going to take a heck of a lot more than a little affection to fix this problem. She needs to know that you aren't that easy. Sure, she'll be mad, if you tell her. You can decide if you want one night of sex and rejection afterwards, or stay strong and her do the work to get the healing?

I've long ago decided sex was out of the question. I do not want a one night stand with my wife and she's going to get tested before we're intimate again

I want and need her to do the work to get the healing. I am here and ready to play ball but I'm more playing poker. She will not see my cards until all the chips are on the table and know for certain she is all in. And we're actively involved in professional help

Thanks again Sandi





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