Lovethehub, I think he is really not speaking to OW at this point. But I think you are right that he is afraid to trust me again, thinks things will just go back to the way they were.
I am afraid that with my H, if he thinks he is losing me he will just give up. He is not a fighter, he is more of a crumble and give in kind of person. He does not bounce back from things.
Either way, you are right that I do need to detach, and I do need to make myself less available to him. If it doesn't bring him back, at least it will preserve what is left of my self respect.
I really appreciate your perspective, and I have a question for you. Is it a good "sign" that H has been coming to MC with me since BD? He is there every week, on time, and usually early. He is also going to IC.
