Girlonf, I'm sorry for what you have experienced in your M. I must admit, my question would be similar to that from Sunny B. Why would you want to return to an abusive relationship? My advice would be that you think long and hard about whether that would be what YOU want - and whether it is the best thing for the whole family - not whether he hopes to reconcile.

Without reading back, have you read DR or DB yet? MWD talks about saving your M if at all possible - unless it is highly dysfunctional or there has been abuse. What do you think would be different if you guys did give things another try? Would it only be a matter of time before your child is cowering behind the door again? I would say yes unless your partner has some kind of epiphany.

Have you read the thread on abuse on this forum? I'm lucky enough never to have experienced abuse in my R, but I have learned a little about it from what posters like Vanilla and Zelda have posted. I would recommend you read that thread anyway. You may also want to look at codependency, which seems to be a theme in abusive or addictive situations. Many posters recommend the codependent no more book.

Take care and keep posting xx


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T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus