I admit that I am rather impatient and can come across as critical and curt, ironically and especially to the ones nearest and dearest to me. I see it as my duty to help them with their problems but I guess I have to realise that not everyone wants me to save them or point out what they could have done better.

After reading the 5LL, I realised that his top 2 needs were words of affirmation and physical touch. Mine were acts of service and quality time. Which explains why I always felt like a piece of furniture/ meat to him. And why he always recoiled when I wanted him to talk to me and share more about himself with me.

And the deepest cut? The fact that he was a good friend with the OW for years. He could talk to her and confide in her when I was begging him to do the same with me. I even remember asking him what he talked to his colleagues about and why he couldn't talk about the same things with me.

You can call me Dory/ Grl.

As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"

It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.